Don't worry; I'm not going to say: "Coffee Date,"
although that would be super convenient as we have a page of products with how-to information, that, if executed well, could very well level up your dating game.
I find that having hobbies, interests, and "specific knowledge," as well-known technology leader and investor Naval Ravikant puts it, is not only relevant for your resume, but for your friendships, dating/relationships, and overall life satisfaction.
How would you impress a new date? Tell them about your greatest achievements? Would you "accidentally" humble brag about where you work, where you live, or the car you drive?
"Just Bowerbird it".......wut?
If you're like me, and have thoroughly enjoyed watching Planet Earth, you understand that animals dance, build nests, gather belongings, even collect shiny objects, all to woo.
"Bowerbirds (/ˈbaʊ.ərbɜːrd/) make up the bird family Ptilonorhynchidae. They are renowned for their unique courtship behaviour, where males build a structure and decorate it with sticks and brightly coloured objects in an attempt to attract a mate." (Wikipedia) 😮
We are naturally inclined to want to show our worth (e.g.: #knowyourworth), as it's scientifically instinctual to show a potential mate that we can provide for, protect, entertain, and/or make them happy. Folks are, of course, all different.
Personality, character, life experience, desires, goals, among other subjects are all factors in whether or not your new date is a "good" match... algorithmically speaking..
We don't want to be searching "how to get swiped right on more often" too frequently. 😉
Let's take a step back: what's their goal here?
We can likely assume at least a few things.
They most likely enjoy genuine laughter, positive experiences, and a healthy environment.
As we try to stick to what the most objective likelihoods relative to what their Tinder profile mentioned, you can start to make guesses about what they'd like to do on a first date.
If you're willing to go outside your comfort zone, and you're interested in this individual potentially on a long-term basis, maybe you'd like to quickly break the ice. An event that will encourage social interaction through working together, competing, doing something outdoors, or learning something new might sound interesting. In this case, I would highly recommend a how-to class, or a place where you can play games together.
Shameless plug here: we perform pop-up café events where you can taste specialty coffees, get caffeinated (being energetic can help a first date go smoothly) socialize, and learn way more than you'd think about coffee. One of our venues we do these in also hosts board game nights and similar events.
Now, all of this is at least somewhat subjective guidance, needless to say. Assuming that you truly want to get to know this person, then social interaction that creates a fun memory is likely a great gameplan! An escape room sometimes isn't the cheapest option, but it is a definitive way to get to know a person!
Let's come up with some ideas:
- our pop-up coffee tasting/how-to events
- board game night
- rollerblading/ice skating
- window shopping
- escape room
- a dance class
- yoga session
- instagram experiences
- hitting the beach (if applicable)
- stand-up comedy
- cooking class
- a party
Have any experience in this subject, or any other ideas you think would be good to add to this list? Comment below and I'll add them; let's make this a working how-to-date successfully doc :)
- Julian, Vibrantry.com
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P.S.: Here's a screenshot of my makeshift recording of our first pop-up event! Forgive the blur, but it was so fun, and we were always serving at least 8 people, with at least a new group of folks cycling through every 30 minutes or so, bringing the total seated/served to about 15>20!
We had a blast, and it was very educational for those seated and for us.
Pictured behind the table, from left to right: Julian, and Lorenzo serving :)